Think back to the day when you first laid eyes on him. You found yourself charmed by the way he talks,the way he dresses himself to show off his best features and theway he embraces life with his laughter. It seemed as if a mysterious "chemistry effect"has suddenly developed to draw you closer to him.
You two then began to meet regularly,and you discover more things that you admire about him. His clever ideas, his healthy values and the way he stands up for you when others doubt you. You find yourself thinking of him not just as a normal friend, but a very good friend. It is often during this period that a boy and a gal will start thinking of bringing their friendship to another level. After all, the kind of wonderful experience you have between each other can only become even better if it develops into a romantic relationship. In other words, the feeling is really unique -no one else seems able to replace him in your heart.
So both of you agree to become an item and work even harder on the relationship. You "graduate" to become a couple, and are the envy of the sea of singles.
When You Forget The Fundamentals However, at some point in your relationship,you forgot how it all began. You start to take your partner for granted. Why can't he laugh in a more manly like manner? Why doesn't he dress himself more trendily? Why must he assert his views and point out your silly mistakes? Is he really the one foryou? To be fair to yourself and to him, take sometime to reflecton your "love memory".
The "lovememory" contains all the reasons that you fell in love with him right from Day One. It contains rarely accessed snippets of how your life has changed since meeting and loving him. Pre-dating days, did you heap compliments on him for the brave way he spoke her mind on bullies and snobs? You probably did. Did you like him unusual fashion sense that makes him stand out from the crowd? Right-o. So why are you criticising or finding fault with him now that sim is your boyfriend? Because you have forgotten the fundamentals of love, like so many of us. You have forgotten the reasons you admired him during the friendship phase.
Instead, once you went steady, you put your "love memory" in cold storage. As his girlfriend, you take up a new set of demands and expectations about him. These new ideas are not necessarily better; they could put your relationship at risk.
The Secret Of Strong Relationships A healthy relationship, like learning to walk properly, follows a step-by-step development. You can't possibly become part of a couple if you aren't friends in the first place. Ok, I know some of us break the rule and plunge straight into whirl wind courtship, but how many of those couples can go the distance? Couplehood works well when there is something you like about her (andvice versa), and I'm not referring to merely the physical aspects. So whenever your relationship hits a rocky path, don't give up without checking on your "love memory". Rediscover the reasons why you fell in love with her, and watch your relationship flourish with a newf ound vigour. "Follow the rule of love and enjoy it, asloving someone is a wonderful and sweet experience."
